Dr. Durlynn Garten discusses the importance of how the non-offending parent and those that love the child deal with the molestation of that child. Believe and show unconditional love for your child when they reveal the abuse, which is the most important component in the child overcoming the sexual abuse he or she has endured. If you love and support the child, their chances of recovery are greatly improved. However tentative belief or outright disbelief increases the child’s helplessness, hopelessness, isolation and self blame and the child may be damaged for a lifetime. The difficulties of life are to make us better, not bitter – very hard words for those who have been molested. As they begin to heal they can realize God’s presence and understand the importance of these words.